Hey PHAT girls, happy Friday!Maui Bigelow of PHAT Girl Fresh

Today I want to talk about the power that words possess. Well honestly, I want to talk about one word and the power it holds and evokes when spoken by one group of individuals. The word is one that is used daily by nearly everyone. However, no one says or gives more power to the word GIRL… like a black woman!

I know some of you are wondering, where is she going with this. Well let me tell you that I am always catching bits and pieces of conversations when I am out. Maybe I am nosey, maybe people say too much publicly when it should be said privately or maybe y’all talk to damn loud! Whatever the case if I hear it and feel the need to address it, I do!

I recently overheard two women (white) talking about their supervisor (who I gathered is black) and how she has favorites in the department. One of the women said, “oh and I just hate to hear her say girl because she is too educated to be so ghetto.”  This got me hot all up around my collar! How dare you tag a black woman as ghetto for using a word that is used frequently by nearly everyone. Oh and, just know that what is understood doesn’t have to be explained and if you don’t understand… in the words of Jay-Z, “It aint for everybody!”Maui Bigelow of PHAT Girl Fresh

Evidently, those white women don’t know how rich and soul filled black women are. They have yet to come to terms with the fact that Our strength is unmatched, and our beauty is undeniable. They don’t know that historically the black woman has endured more hardships than any group, but we also boast the greatest accomplishments too.

What group of women are more educated… Black women! Who was waiting for Roy Moore at the door to assure a pedophile didn’t take a sit in Alabama… black women! Who started a movement that empowered women to speak their truth and come from behind the curtains of shame… Tarana Burke and she is what? A BLACK WOMAN!  So yeah, black women are every single thing!

Now let’s be clear, like any other word, girl can be delivered and translated in many ways; how you receive it is not our business. Just know that it isn’t ghetto or inappropriate at all. It is as affectionate and essential as an OO-OOP among Deltas and as traditional SKEE-WEE from an AKA.


I think that author,  Abigail Padgett said it best…

“The way black women say “girl” can be magical. Frankly, I have no solid beliefs about the survival of consciousness after physical death. But if it’s going to happen I know what I want to see after my trek toward the light. I want to see a black woman who will smile and say, “Girl….”

Maui Bigelow of PHAT Girl Fresh

So yeah, just know that when you see a black woman look at another black woman and say… GIRL! You are experiencing sisterhood in it’s finest form.


Maui Bigelow of PHAT Girl Fresh

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1 Comment

  1. December 22, 2017 / 5:40 pm

    “Girl” has about 4000 translations! LOL It also breaks down barriers too. When I am in a place and come across a sista, if she says “girlllll” at anytime, I know she’s halfway cool and we gonna be good. LOL Great post!