Our Greatest Fear…Me And My Ego

Maui Bigelow of PHAT Girl Fresh styled by Ego Boutique

“it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other

people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.”

—Marianne Williams

Maui Bigelow of PHAT Girl Fresh styled by Ego Boutique

I have been a fat girl for a long time and for most of that time, I realized that others felt that I was less than them because i was a fat girl. Not smart, Not pretty, Not funny; just fat! In their opinion, all fat girls did was take up space; so that is what I did, I silently took up space.While I knew that I was greater, I shrunk myself to accommodate others because God forbid, they thought that I felt as though I was equal to or better than them.

It took a long time for me to shake the belief that i had to shrink myself. However, over time I evolved into womanhood and  begin to see that there was no shame in my truth. I absorbed the fact that I had the right to be just as great as I could be, so i did. I released all of that brilliant light that I dimmed for so long and I develop one of the biggest egos a fat girl could have.

Yes, I have a big ego, I know that I am amazing and I love me pound for pound. No longer am I afraid of how others feel about me living to my full potential because it has nothing to do with them, it is all me and I am so unapologetic!

No, I don’t feel that I am perfect or superior to others but I am proud of the woman that I see in the mirror. Lord knows, it was hard for me to consciously identify with myself as a woman of great value and now that I have, I hold it near and dear. Never again will I dumb myself down so that others can feel better, they are going to have to take a page from my book and get their own egos.

Deets Of Both Looks

Fashion: The Ego Boutique

Styling: The Ego Boutique 

Photo: Don Mills

Editing: Rick Jones

Maui Bigelow of PHAT Girl Fresh styled by Ego Boutique

CHIME IN LADIES! What did you have to overcome to walk in your greatness? Is your ego on fleek?